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  When a question is asked in the classroom and everyone gives the same answer, have you noticed how you blend in with the unifying answer instead of speaking your thoughts?  That's it right there, friend. The Fear of Standing Alone.  🧾A proof is how you hit your palm against your forehead when the teacher affirms the answer you had in mind- the one you stifled because you sought confirmation from the crowd. 📌Have you noticed how you draw back when the whole class is required to attempt a written question, not because you do not have an idea but because you seek strings of attempts from your mates to follow suit?  Think of how you follow the rest of the class to say "yes" when the teacher asks the popular question "do you understand?" But as soon as someone says "No, I do not understand", you jump in- "I, too!" That's it again, right there. 🔝The above relatable scenerio might seem trivial but they embody an essential skill that spans b...

  When you are told by your "friends" that you do not "belong", do not strive to belong. You will end up losing yourself at the end of the day. By losing yourself I mean your freedom to keep being you and expressing your self genuinely.  I've been a teenager before and I can say that it is an age where your contemporaries who seem like "wild cats" would want to win you over to their sides by intimidation and mockery.  ❌Don't give in.    Look, I understand that as a teenager, you crave freedom like you crave your favourite snack but you must also know that true freedom as a teenager is not throwing away your home-instilled values to the bin to fit into a certain circle of friends. Instead,  ✔️it is exercising the power to hold up such values as a proud custodian such that in any sea of friends you find yourself in, you will be the captain of your ship, those values being your compass. This is not necessarily to make your parents proud even though th...